Posts Tagged "parenting"

How I deal with my teenager’s ‘disrespect’

(note: please forgive the brashness expressed in this article – my need for being with reality is bigger than any desire to be overly polite . . .) “Fuck you!” Those were the words that cut off my recent attempt-to-connect sentence coming out of my mouth: “Sweetie, let’s try talking abo-” As the door slammed behind my just-turned 13-year-old son, I tried picking my jaw off…

Connecting with Children in Need of Mourning

I was experiencing mixed emotions in anticipation of the day both my children stopped believing in Sinterklaas. On the one hand, I didn’t want the joy, the excitement, the “magic” to end for them. On the other hand, I was looking forward to the day I could have far more honest conversations with them, experience less pressure concerning filling their shoes AND to give them something…

Applying NVC in Daily Parenting

I don’t like to give the impression that I “know good parenting.” I don’t even believe in the concept of “good vs. bad” anymore – it’s the root of so much comparison, blame, pain in our lives. Even the current popular term, “positive parenting” feels too loaded to me. So when I saw this little gem on “effective parenting 101,” I was inspired to write about…

Unconditional Parenting in Practice

Ahh, playground politics! A friend of mine recently said to me, “I didn’t get this down when I was a kid, and now I have to re-live it as a mother!?” Who (among us who spend any time picking up our kids from a Dutch school) doesn’t relate to that, I wonder? Today I was confronted with a hefty dose of it and found myself mediating…

The Power of Empathy (Part II) – Connecting with a Teacher

After having a breakthrough empathic conversation with my son (see previous post: “The power of empathy in connecting with a child”), I thought he felt much relief and that most of his troubles were behind him. That wasn’t quite the case, however. The following morning he declared that he hadn’t slept well at all and that he had pain in his stomach again (from the stress).…

Resolutions for Developing Positive Habits? It Starts with Inner Awareness

Another article posted online (http://www.amsterdam-mamas.nl/stories/this-month/developing-positive-habits) and here . . . I’ll admit it – there have been many a January when I conducted an online search on something like “create positive habits” . . . only to find a wide variety of suggestions, best strategies or top ten tips that sounded promising, but in reality didn’t help lead me to much change. I’m motivated to share what has helped…

Silent Empathy – a powerful tool for enriching relationships

  It was exactly a year ago, when I got some honest feedback – all one has to do is simply ask a child – and realized I still had serious work to do. We were sitting together at the same table, engaged in the same Sinterklaas-related artwork as this past week. Our conversation was on the subject of Zwarte Piet names. In Holland, much like…

Seeking Balance: Taking a Closer Look

My latest blog was posted on the Amsterdam Mamas website today (http://www.amsterdam-mamas.nl/stories/this-month/seeking-balance-taking-a-closer-look). In it, I reveal my own journey toward finding work-life balance and pass on some tips for how others can as well. You can also read it here . . . When both my kids attended elementary school, there was notably quite a bit more breathing room to gain more grip on the theme of…