Posts Tagged "mourning"

Finding Balance between Mourning and Appreciation

6 October, 2017 I have lost a dear friend today. Just found out that she passed during the night, after a rather long battle with cancer. My first instinct was to search for distraction – to get away from my heavy emotions. But that felt like a disservice to this woman I loved. So I decided to feel instead. I began to sob heavily,  grief-stricken by…

The Comparison Trap . . . and getting out of it

I recently received this question from a woman I know: “I’d like some help dealing with the trap of comparing. I’ve been struggling under the weight of house envy. A friend has a new home with garden attached, and the arrival of summer weather threatens to steal all my usual joy in the season. I guess it sounds absolutely ridiculous and trivial, but it’s so real…

Connecting with Children in Need of Mourning

I was experiencing mixed emotions in anticipation of the day both my children stopped believing in Sinterklaas. On the one hand, I didn’t want the joy, the excitement, the “magic” to end for them. On the other hand, I was looking forward to the day I could have far more honest conversations with them, experience less pressure concerning filling their shoes AND to give them something…