Posts Tagged "judgment"

Find connection with others

Throughout my life, I’ve been labeled as an extrovert. It’s true that I really enjoy people and derive much energy from them . . . but not just anyone and not just anytime. I have to first feel safe and comfortable – unafraid of being unfairly judged or sudden conflict. These conditions which I’ve become aware of as an adult have made it practically impossible for…

Learning to back off through vulnerable honesty

Vulnerable honesty is a concept I learned during a Nonviolent Communication (NVC) training by Yoram Mosenzon. For him it seems it’s a way of life – real (vulnerable) honesty in communication, or meaningless-ness. Vulnerable honesty is different than the sort of honesty I grew up knowing, such as “I want to tell you the truth, you are so stubborn it is amazing.” Vulnerable honesty is to…

Connecting with Others (or, my new strategy for getting through holiday & other social gatherings)

I’m not one for small talk. I wish it came easier to me, like when I was a teenager and spent hours and hours on the phone, talking about I-don’t-know-what. Or maybe it wasn’t so menial . . . perhaps I was very in touch with my (overflowing, hormone-driven!) feelings and enjoyed connecting with my girlfriends on very fundamental levels. Now a few decades later, I…