Posts Tagged "inner critic"

From a Language of Criticism to one of Compassion and Connection

I was raised by loving parents. Of course they weren’t perfect, but I just can’t blame my problems on them. They did well and now as a parent I actually strive to be like them in most aspects. But I grew up in a broader culture of: “Want to be a good person? Be hard on yourself.” So I had a lot to unlearn and learn,…

The costs of hiding behind a mask

Working hard and feeling lonely? Wanting to deliver high quality, come across as having it together, on top of it all, near perfect—this is my definition of “professional,” and it has been a lifelong strategy of mine. Some might say it’s an American cultural thing, this hiding behind a mask. I can’t be certain of that, but I can imagine that to a large degree, it…