Posts Tagged "empathy"

A Fresh Start on Motherhood (with much thanks to NVC)

I knew I’d accomplished a serious milestone this past Christmas when I received a gift from my mother that touched me perhaps like none other ever has. The little wooden statue of a woman holding her child up in the air was immediately symbolic of so many positive things to me. As soon as I held it, the tears just came, and came. Why all the…

The Power of Empathy (Part II) – Connecting with a Teacher

After having a breakthrough empathic conversation with my son (see previous post: “The power of empathy in connecting with a child”), I thought he felt much relief and that most of his troubles were behind him. That wasn’t quite the case, however. The following morning he declared that he hadn’t slept well at all and that he had pain in his stomach again (from the stress).…

Resolutions for Developing Positive Habits? It Starts with Inner Awareness

Another article posted online (http://www.amsterdam-mamas.nl/stories/this-month/developing-positive-habits) and here . . . I’ll admit it – there have been many a January when I conducted an online search on something like “create positive habits” . . . only to find a wide variety of suggestions, best strategies or top ten tips that sounded promising, but in reality didn’t help lead me to much change. I’m motivated to share what has helped…

Connecting with Others (or, my new strategy for getting through holiday & other social gatherings)

I’m not one for small talk. I wish it came easier to me, like when I was a teenager and spent hours and hours on the phone, talking about I-don’t-know-what. Or maybe it wasn’t so menial . . . perhaps I was very in touch with my (overflowing, hormone-driven!) feelings and enjoyed connecting with my girlfriends on very fundamental levels. Now a few decades later, I…

Silent Empathy – a powerful tool for enriching relationships

  It was exactly a year ago, when I got some honest feedback – all one has to do is simply ask a child – and realized I still had serious work to do. We were sitting together at the same table, engaged in the same Sinterklaas-related artwork as this past week. Our conversation was on the subject of Zwarte Piet names. In Holland, much like…

The beautiful message anger can tell us

I must have grown up thinking anger wasn’t o.k. . . . shameful in fact. At any rate, the two emotions have often seemed paired up for me. But I’m beginning to see it differently these days – and am quite relieved, because attaching shame with anger is an exhausting endeavor – one that doesn’t exactly encourage self-acceptance. Here’s the key: I’ve learned to understand that…

Seeking Balance: Taking a Closer Look

My latest blog was posted on the Amsterdam Mamas website today (http://www.amsterdam-mamas.nl/stories/this-month/seeking-balance-taking-a-closer-look). In it, I reveal my own journey toward finding work-life balance and pass on some tips for how others can as well. You can also read it here . . . When both my kids attended elementary school, there was notably quite a bit more breathing room to gain more grip on the theme of…

Solicited Advice (and the gift of empathy)

A friend of mine just had a baby – her first. At our age it’s probably one of the last births I’ll be celebrating in a while. If I were to give her some of that infamous “unsolicited advice,” I might start with something like, “stay in touch with community; don’t isolate yourself.” In her case, I don’t have to, because in her birth announcement email,…

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