Posts Tagged "deepening connections"

The Beauty of Our Interdependence

We’ve been down a long 25-year road in our relationship, with many skid marks as well as breathtaking vistas along the way. For me it’s culminated to this single guiding phrase: Your well-being is my well-being, and my well-being is your well-being. It didn’t catch on with me for the longest time. . .  I was busy fighting for my position, my place, not really understanding…

Staying connected with my partner

As a question to reflect on (not a test) . . . over the holidays, did you manage to connect and stay connected with the people who are MOST important to you? Read on to learn how I figured out a way for staying connected with my partner, and how you can, too. I find it so very intriguing. Over the course of my partnership (20+…

Connecting with Children in Need of Mourning

I was experiencing mixed emotions in anticipation of the day both my children stopped believing in Sinterklaas. On the one hand, I didn’t want the joy, the excitement, the “magic” to end for them. On the other hand, I was looking forward to the day I could have far more honest conversations with them, experience less pressure concerning filling their shoes AND to give them something…

Find connection with others

Throughout my life, I’ve been labeled as an extrovert. It’s true that I really enjoy people and derive much energy from them . . . but not just anyone and not just anytime. I have to first feel safe and comfortable – unafraid of being unfairly judged or sudden conflict. These conditions which I’ve become aware of as an adult have made it practically impossible for…

Applying NVC in Daily Parenting

I don’t like to give the impression that I “know good parenting.” I don’t even believe in the concept of “good vs. bad” anymore – it’s the root of so much comparison, blame, pain in our lives. Even the current popular term, “positive parenting” feels too loaded to me. So when I saw this little gem on “effective parenting 101,” I was inspired to write about…

The Power of Empathy (Part II) – Connecting with a Teacher

After having a breakthrough empathic conversation with my son (see previous post: “The power of empathy in connecting with a child”), I thought he felt much relief and that most of his troubles were behind him. That wasn’t quite the case, however. The following morning he declared that he hadn’t slept well at all and that he had pain in his stomach again (from the stress).…

Connecting with Others (or, my new strategy for getting through holiday & other social gatherings)

I’m not one for small talk. I wish it came easier to me, like when I was a teenager and spent hours and hours on the phone, talking about I-don’t-know-what. Or maybe it wasn’t so menial . . . perhaps I was very in touch with my (overflowing, hormone-driven!) feelings and enjoyed connecting with my girlfriends on very fundamental levels. Now a few decades later, I…