Posts Tagged "conflict"

Family Vacation – one great tip on how to improve it

I’ve been looking at how to optimize our family vacations for the past several years. (See last year’s post, “Reduce conflict during family vacation!”) As our two kids are hitting their teenage years, it’s getting more challenging than ever to find win-win agreements and outcomes. How on earth can everyone be satisfied when we have very different wishes and needs? It seems impossible at times. Especially…

The Beauty of Our Interdependence

We’ve been down a long 25-year road in our relationship, with many skid marks as well as breathtaking vistas along the way. For me it’s culminated to this single guiding phrase: Your well-being is my well-being, and my well-being is your well-being. It didn’t catch on with me for the longest time. . .  I was busy fighting for my position, my place, not really understanding…

A Letter on behalf of our Relationship

The relationship request I wish I made years ago This year marks a quarter of a century since I first met and fell in love with my husband. As we’re from different cultures (I’m American, he’s Dutch), we’ve had a fair share of ups and downs for sure throughout our relationship. We have shown much love, trust and courage to each other which created countless moments…

Reduce conflict during family vacation!

I spent this summer vacation engaging in and attempting to observe family conflict. This “fieldwork” was challenging to say the least. It required me to take a helicopter view, even when I was emotionally involved. I set out to better understand why it is that we struggle to meet the essential extended holiday longings we all share, like: Why is it that despite each of us…

3 tips for Self-Love

This is meant for you if you recognize that self-love isn’t exactly a familiar part of your life. Perhaps you’re harder on yourself than you are on others. It may be hard to accept gifts or gratitude. You find it far easier to love others. You may even tire yourself out in pursuit of love from others, in order to fulfill your need. I’ve been trying…