Posts Tagged "Anger"

How anger can help you connect

If you’re anything like the old me, you’re probably confused at the notion that anger can be anything but disconnecting. I grew up with the belief that anger wasn’t o.k. As a result, if I ever felt and showed my anger, shame and guilt tagged right along with it. It was indeed a very disconnecting process in which I experienced double conflict: self-blame for allowing anger…

Emotions, useful? You bet – here’s the why and how

It’s not often I enjoy a “kid film” as much as I did this past summer’s Pixar hit, Inside Out. I laughed, I cried, I felt connected with myself (as things resonated with me) and also with my eight-year old daughter whose hand I squeezed all throughout. I kept thinking, “How wonderfully healthy for her and all other children to be watching this movie!” At some…

The beautiful message anger can tell us

I must have grown up thinking anger wasn’t o.k. . . . shameful in fact. At any rate, the two emotions have often seemed paired up for me. But I’m beginning to see it differently these days – and am quite relieved, because attaching shame with anger is an exhausting endeavor – one that doesn’t exactly encourage self-acceptance. Here’s the key: I’ve learned to understand that…