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A Walk in the Park – daily NVC

I first “met” Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in 2004, and for some time now, I have had the goal to integrate it into how I speak with myself and with others. My intentions have to do with minimizing harm, experiencing inner awareness, choice, authenticity, being in my power, empowering others, and where possible meaningful connection with others. Do I always manage? Heck no. When I do, I…

Standing on the Shoulders of “Nonviolence” Giants

A Longing for Nonviolence and Peace I remember just last year consoling my 11-year-old daughter as she cried long and hard about all the things she saw happening in the world. Things like hunger, animal extinction, wars and terrorism. It was especially the violent parts that made her cry with despair. I listened and waited until she was ready to take part in a dialogue. Then…

Finding Balance between Mourning and Appreciation

6 October, 2017 I have lost a dear friend today. Just found out that she passed during the night, after a rather long battle with cancer. My first instinct was to search for distraction – to get away from my heavy emotions. But that felt like a disservice to this woman I loved. So I decided to feel instead. I began to sob heavily,  grief-stricken by…

Reduce conflict during family vacation!

I spent this summer vacation engaging in and attempting to observe family conflict. This “fieldwork” was challenging to say the least. It required me to take a helicopter view, even when I was emotionally involved. I set out to better understand why it is that we struggle to meet the essential extended holiday longings we all share, like: Why is it that despite each of us…

Prioritizing Self-Care (even when you think it’s impossible)

This time of year has always been the most challenging for me, especially when it comes to taking care of myself. It was as if life went into overdrive on all fronts: work deadlines, social obligations, kids’ school festivities, gifts, holiday cards, special foods, traveling, etc. Each of these seemed to come out of nowhere, wrapped in a package labeled “URGENT!” And I’d take on each…

Rediscovering Self-Connection

I am all too familiar with the theme of disconnection from myself. I don’t see it in a purely negative light, but something like this: As children, we want more than anything love, appreciation and acceptance for who we are. Yet the world around us tries to shape us into “proper” self-reliant individuals. Within our unique frameworks, we develop multiple strategies to get these and other…

Emotions, useful? You bet – here’s the why and how

It’s not often I enjoy a “kid film” as much as I did this past summer’s Pixar hit, Inside Out. I laughed, I cried, I felt connected with myself (as things resonated with me) and also with my eight-year old daughter whose hand I squeezed all throughout. I kept thinking, “How wonderfully healthy for her and all other children to be watching this movie!” At some…

 Edging Towards Honesty

A friend once said to me, “Something is gained from every act of honest communication.” I recall my doubtful reaction. Yet I’m slowly learning he’s spot on. The trick is in how we define HONESTY. Being honest is not about sharing our thoughts. It’s about sharing our real truth—the only thing we actually can know—by expressing our personal feelings and needs. My “break-ups” Since my teenage years,…

Staying connected with my partner (part 2)

If you’re like me—and maybe most busy couples—I’m guessing you can also find visits to extended family a super challenging experience. Particularly when that visit involves multiple days at a time. I’ve been focusing a lot of effort on staying connected with my partner during these visits. This has been my best one yet, and I share here why that is plus tips you can try.…

Self-image: take this one critical step toward self-love

We can learn to improve how we see, feel about and even love/accept ourselves by learning to separate who we are as a whole . . . from . . . how we judge our role performances. So many times I considered myself a “bad mother” because I raised my voice, and then was consumed with the thought for days on end. Last Spring, I convinced…

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