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How to get unstuck, gain balance, and feel more satisfied in life

Are you wondering how to get unstuck? Does this sound familiar? “I am always doing, in survival mode, juggling parenting, work, household duties, volunteering, social activities—and find myself in certain routines and patterns. How do I deal better with my chaotic and full head and experience more relaxation, satisfaction and balance in my life?” I asked myself a similar question the year I turned 40, engaged…

Why I started Mothers’ Circles

Consider the following words from Rumi: You were born with potential You were born with goodness and trust You were born with ideals and dreams You were born with greatness You were born with wings You are not meant for crawling, so don’t. You have wings Learn to use them, and fly. And these from Marianne Williamson: Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.…

Cultivating Compassion in the Workplace (why bother & taking a first step)

  In the Fall of 2013, journalist Andy Fraser reported on his learnings at the Empathy and Compassion in Societyconference in London. He was interested in understanding more about why a recent Gallup poll had revealed that “just 13% of the world’s employees are engaged at work; about a quarter are ‘actively disengaged’ – unhappy, unproductive and liable to spread negativity to their colleagues.” He shared…

Applying NVC in Daily Parenting

I don’t like to give the impression that I “know good parenting.” I don’t even believe in the concept of “good vs. bad” anymore – it’s the root of so much comparison, blame, pain in our lives. Even the current popular term, “positive parenting” feels too loaded to me. So when I saw this little gem on “effective parenting 101,” I was inspired to write about…

Unconditional Parenting in Practice

Ahh, playground politics! A friend of mine recently said to me, “I didn’t get this down when I was a kid, and now I have to re-live it as a mother!?” Who (among us who spend any time picking up our kids from a Dutch school) doesn’t relate to that, I wonder? Today I was confronted with a hefty dose of it and found myself mediating…

Alfie Kohn’s wisdom on Unconditional Parenting

  Yesterday evening, I had the honor of hearing Alfie Kohn (author of “Unconditional Parenting” and other cutting edge books) speak. Passionate, energetic, interactive with his audience, and even capable of expressing some vulnerability – these are traits I long to see when I attend any lecture. And although he was a bit on the professorial side in his language, I was thoroughly engaged and entertained,…

The costs of being so Professional all the time

I came to realize in the past couple of years that it’s a lifelong strategy of mine, this needing to come across as professional, having it together, on top of it all, near perfect. Some would say it’s an American cultural thing. I can’t be certain of that, but I can imagine that to a large degree, it was passed down from my grandfather to my…

Learning to back off through vulnerable honesty

Vulnerable honesty is a concept I learned during a Nonviolent Communication (NVC) training by Yoram Mosenzon. For him it seems it’s a way of life – real (vulnerable) honesty in communication, or meaningless-ness. Vulnerable honesty is different than the sort of honesty I grew up knowing, such as “I want to tell you the truth, you are so stubborn it is amazing.” Vulnerable honesty is to…

Email Management Time!

I read the following article by Drake Baer today, and know that the timing couldn’t be better. I haven’t returned from my vacation just yet, but see the email piling up, and would rather not dread diving into it. This article gives me hope, along with the fact that as a result of my recent training, I’ve been practicing on a daily basis making clear, specific…

Seeing Myself Through Nature’s Eyes

I’ve been paying more attention lately to where I feel emotions in my body. Sound crazy? I wasn’t so sure about it myself, but I’m starting to rake in the benefits. In my opinion, I’ve always had a strong body. Rarely sick as a child, no broken bones, fast healer. No indications of allergies or food sensitivities. Until now that is – a skin condition called…

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